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How I Do Therapy
​​The reason regular "talk therapy" doesn't always work and/or takes a long time for the changes to become evident is because it is what's called top-down. The brain evolved from the brain stem, then the limbic system, then the prefrontal cortex (PFC). So when top-down modalities are used, they engage the PFC to change emotional states (limbic system) and even physiological states (brain stem).
Whereas bottom-up means we will leverage the brain stem and the limbic system to change thoughts. Deb Dana a brillant therapist who uses this knowledge has a phrase that I like to repeat:
"Story Follows State"
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This means that our physiological state influences the narrative that is happening in our mind. The story in our head is a result of the nervous system state our body is in. So that if we are in a sympathetic flight/fight response (e.g., anxious or angry), then our thoughts will be more aligned with the world being inhospitable, and/or everyone out to get me, etc. If we use a somatic or a body-based approach and bring mindful attention to our breath, we can shape out breath. Shaping our breath using therapeutic yogic breathing techniques can down-regulate our nervous system back into a safe and socially connected, parasympathetic state. In this state, our thoughts are more likely to reflect a world that is supportive, people who are considerate, and relationships filled with compassion. The ability to change our breath influences our ability to emotionally regulate.
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I use this bottom-up approach by using both Hakomi, mindful somatic psychotherapy, trauma-informed yoga, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) [Blogs on each].
I also leverage the power of the vagus nerve and applied Polyvagal Theory (PVT). PVT simply states that the vagus nerve, which is responsible for changing our nervous system state from sympathetic to parasympathetic, has 2 pathways that it can follow out of the brain. It can go up to the face where soft eyes and smile, prosodic voice, and relaxed jaw all indicate signs of safety...the ventral vagal complex (social engagement system). The vagus nerve can also traverse the more primitive survival route of dorsal vagal where we feign death (numbing out). What's in between these 2 states is the sympathetic flight or fight.
The vagus nerve is bi-directional, meaning it can take messages from the brain to the body and vice versa. The thing is that 80% of those fibers take messages from the body to the brain and only 20% from the brain to the body. So essentially, top=down talk therapy is using that 20% capacity, whereas bottom-up somatic therapy is using the 80% capacity. We need both top-down and bottom-up...it's just that conventional therapy is not yet fully on-board with bringing the body into the conversation, missing out on that 80% directionality.
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Dana, D. (2018). The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation. W.W. Norton & Company.

"...I wept because I have lost my pain and I am not yet accustomed to its absence."
~From the poem "Last Night I wept" by Anaïs Nin

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How Might You Experience Therapy?
Some of the things here on my webpage will again appear in the informed consent and they are so important, I think it warrants a second mention. When I was in school they required us to go to just 5 counseling sessions at the beginning of the program. I continued to go throughout my program (3.5 yrs) and still see my counselor intermittently.
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The purpose of going to counseling is a little different for everyone, and yet the end goal is just to have more joy, more meaning, more connectedness...and in order for those things to emerge, the deep sludge of past trauma must be cleared. Those initial sessions were deep and my body remembered things that had no words, just a felt sense of fear. The process of releasing through tears with support was very healing.
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Those sessions rattled me pretty hard and yet when I think about therapy and my inner world like a snow globe, it has to get all shaken up for the beauty to emerge. I had no idea how emotionally taxing it was. I soon started scheduling my counseling appointments on my day off to ensure I had plenty of time to recover and truly care for myself. The phrases: "It gets worse before it gets better", or "It's always darkest before the dawn" come to mind. It did get better, less taxing, more joy, more ease, more harmony...but I had to "do the work".
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Because everyone's journey is unique, I would like to ask some questions and offer some potential helpful strategies for optimizing your counseling process.
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Questions For Consideration:
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How do you recharge? Being alone? With friends? Animals? Nature?
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How do you know when your battery is empty?
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What foods help you feel grounded? Are nourishing to you not just physically?
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What do you drink when you want something warm? Something cold? Something sweet? Sour?
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Do you like to move? Find stillness?
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What are some mind-body practices that can help you integrate your therapeutic experiences?
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Do you like to create? Art? Sew? Basket weave? Crochet? Paint? Oil pastels? Clay? Beading?
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Do you photograph things? Microscope things?
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Do you like to be outdoors? Does being in nature feel good? Gardening?
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Who are the people you can turn to for support?
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Does going to the gym help you engage? Standing on a vibration plate? Sauna? Steam room?
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Any movement practices? Dance? 5 rhythms? Yoga? Tai Chi? Qi Gong?
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Do you play a musical instrument? Listen to music?
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Any meditation practices? Vipasana? Metta? Mantra? Chanting? Prayer?
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Do you write? Journal? Poety? Haiku?
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Do you like massages? Reiki? Craniosacral?
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What elements help you restore?
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Fire - candles/fire pit/bonfire?
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Water - bath/shower/hot tub/hot springs/neti pot/cold plunge?
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Air - aromatherapy, musical instrument you blow into, breath practices/smudging?
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Earth - grounding/earthing/dry brushing/oil self massage/fascia blasting or foam rolling?​
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Potentially Helpful Strategies:
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​​​​​​​​Be sure to let your family know that you are starting counseling and that on those days or maybe even the next day, there can be some emotional lability (emotional ups and downs).
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Schedule you counseling days with very little else to do. Even when the sessions are joyful, it is important to anchor in that felt sense of love and peace.
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Somatic psychotherapy and IFS allow for the deep work and yet the body-mind knows its natural healing rhythms. I will never force you into "real" work. It is ALL real and we can get curious around who the inner players are that are being protective and why.
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Be prepared to evaluate many areas of your life, health, and wellness (not just your thoughts). Because I'm a nurse functioning within my scope of practice as a counselor, we will address the domains of wellness that include the physical:
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Sleep, diet, hydration, exercise/movement, sunlight/moonlight exposure, outdoor time, screen-free time, emotional, mental, sexual, social, environmental, spiritual, and of course, relational.
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Exceptions To Confidentiality
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You always have choice in what to disclose and that will ALWAYS be honored, and please know that there is absolutely anything you can share with me. On that note, everything you say is confidential with a couple of exceptions:
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I must report current situations where there is suspected abuse or neglect of a child, an elder, or a person with disabilities​
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I must report if I think that there is a risk of imminent serious harm to yourself or to others
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If I get a court-ordered subpoena
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